We seek posts from users who have specific and personal relationship quandaries that other redditors can help them try to solve. I once dated a guy and was so crazy about him. While it has revolutionized communication and allowed people to connect with each other in unprecedented ways, it has also had a significant impact on body image. By extension, your life is on hold as well. Tell him that she can get roommates if she doesn't want to live alone, and she can learn to live within her means rather than depending on the two of you, but you are just not willing to live in a situation where you support her for the next 30 years because you have other goals like getting married and having kids etc. We worked it out after, but still. If you have any questions or requests, please contact us at 727-317-5800. Sadly i think there is nothing much you can do here other than set specific dates, as in you intend to move out on date X and he can make his decision then whether he is going to live independently from him mother then and come with you or whether he is going to continue on this same path. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. His business partner went bankrupt and he couldnt afford to move forward alone which left him in his current situation. He has no savings or own property because of bad financial decisions that has left him $50k in the hole. If your boyfriend is in a temporarily bad situationhe lost his job and he's looking for another, or he's putting all his money toward paying off debtthings may be okay. As a grown woman, its only hot if that band is U2. He is working long hours and it seems his parents dont really care and okay with it. I am okay with his current financial situation. Requested URL: www.thepennyhoarder.com/debt/boyfriend-supports-his-parents/, User-Agent: Mozilla/5.0 (Windows NT 10.0; Win64; x64) AppleWebKit/537.36 (KHTML, like Gecko) Chrome/103.0.5060.114 Safari/537.36 Edg/103.0.1264.62. You will be able to tell if your husband is using you financially if you notice any of the signs that are listed above. If he needs to work two jobs to pay his parents bills while hes still living with them, he certainly cant afford the expenses of a second household. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. Boyfriend (M39) supports his parents financial needs 100% His current financial situation is because of wrong investments and mostly putting all his savings in one basket, trying to have his own business and spending substantial amounts of money with little success. They have money, but they don't want to touch it. Imagine a dude cutting his wrist every morning to feed his dog. Ask friends and family for donations to this account while noting you will pay them back once you are on your feet. Additionally, some men may need to be shown the impact that his actions, or his inaction, can have on a person. He may be unsure as to how to reach out to new friends. We are now paying their rent, so that the rest of them can afford to buy a house. Its important to have an identity and individuality when in a relationship. I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and we have talked about a future together. She has even gone so far as to ask my boyfriend to call certain companys that she owes money to, (to discuss when she will be able to pay her bill, etc.) If it's immaturity, bad luck, or basically circumstantial stuff, then maybe it's not unsalvageable. This is money going to the people that made him exist and ensured he survived through his childhood years.