Hi Laurie, it is hard to comment on a situation where ego, aging, frustration and jealousy are jousting with each other. Typically, sex therapy can last anywhere from six sessions to 15-plus depending on what relationship issues may also need resolution. I work on it every day and I am a firm believer in talking about your feelings. I was sort of miserable but happy to free this strong sex drive build up all at the same time. But I know this is not possible. The degree of roughness of sex is hardly a measure for the intensity of emotions. How To Survive A Sexless Marriage Without Cheating - YouTube The only way to fix it is to intentionally do things to create the desire that you both agree to do. Sometimes couples need to learn about a new sexual topic together such as tantra or kink. Maybe a hormonal change, or physical injury or an emotional injury. There are plenty of reasons to find yourself in a sexless marriage: Menopause, having a baby, health problems, or a recent life change. I am in the same position as you. Ive been with my partner for 16 years sex was amazing for years,she had 3 kids from a previous realioship and we got on amazing. What can I do to improve things? Sexless Marriage: Causes and Consequences - The Doctor Weighs In And she knew exactly what to do. Sometimes couples dont intentionally set aside time to themselves as a couple. There cant be that many people who start off saying that they arent in the mood but stay like that the whole time, not with someone that you really love and care about. i have been struggling to initiate intimacy with my wife for about 2 years, since i got sober. Mental health issues, like depression or anxiety, can also impact sexual desire and libido. The energy that is being freed just has to be channeled in the right direction. According to The Social Organization of Sexuality, a sexless marriage occurs when couples aren't engaging in sexual activity or are having minimal sexual encounters. It can be used on its own or with a cervical cap, but there are still some small risks for getting pregnant. Thats not normal. We dont sleep in the same bed anymore, shes a night owl and I have to get up to go to work. Ive stayed and have begged and waited for him to change or to get help.