I am lostfrustrated and so hurt by his actions. Megan, Devine, Empowering Parents author, has some ideas and suggestions around living, with an adult child, as well as a free, printable living agreement you can find. Do you or or child have anxiety and in turn rip your clothes? Schedule set (does it ever really get finalized??). He seems to only enjoy food and tv as he asks for them constantly but we can't have him in front of the tv sleeping his life away and eating till he explodes lol. We can't leave any clothings in his bedroom as he will demolish it, no beddings as well as mattress. $200? This paper trail is necessary if your child does end up in the court system and you need written proof to back up your claims and get them the services they may need. I hope this is helpful in addressing your daughter's. He is very sensory seeking, but ripping is the big thing for him.. We were in counseling. She has learned, out enough, you will change your mind. For example, you might ask, What was going on for you just before, you put a hole in the wall? Whatever her response is, you can have, a problem solving conversation about what she can do different next, time that is a more acceptable behavior. Please be sure to write back and let us know how things are. In my opinion, and based on much of the research, behavior support plans need to have a replacement skill included in them in order to create long-term changes to behavior that generalizes across settings. Then I notice that why is it that she spends so much time in her room cleaning and when her door opens I either see papers all over that had been ripped apart, clean cloths scattered all over the floor with spilled drinks, the bed and sheets will be on the floor. Its important to note that teens and older children who destroy property as part of an overall pattern of violating the rights of others (stealing, destruction, violence, breaking the law) have moved beyond oppositional defiant disorder and into what psychologists call conduct disorder. You want to respond to your childs destructive behavior in a way that leaves no doubt about what they will experience should they engage in this behavior outside your home. We do tons of these in my room. Ive known her since she was 9 months old and noticed she was special then. Weve been having issues with spitting and putting things in the mouth that are not safe or sanitary. I understand your worries about your sons behavior, as it, sounds quite concerning. An example would be teaching a student whose behavior is determined by the FBA to serve to gain reaction or attention from his peers to tell jokes to get that same reaction. We value your opinions and encourage you to add your comments to this No matter the reason for your childs behavior, they need to be held accountable.